Thursday, October 28, 2010

Journey-Facing Reality and Moving forward

Life is a long journey. It involves choices you make and also you’re affected by other people’s choices. There is good and bad combined in everything we do. Currently I am experiencing both regarding choices I have made in my life. I am feeling some of the affects from the bad choices I’ve made, but I also can see blessings coming my way for good choices that I am making today. I have had to come face to face with life--literally going full force into a major reality check within the last 2 weeks. What brought this on? E-Harmony- since deciding that I would like to pursue the idea of dating with the hopes of marriage, truth has really hit me in the face.

What do I mean exactly? Well, one example it my weight. I don't want to be like this for the rest of my life. I certainly do not want to be a mom or a wife like this, and certainly would not want to try and do mission’s works being like this. So what am I going to do about it? I am going to make a choice. I know what I want and I need to go for it. No more excuses. Just need to make better choices. Now, I don't eat horribly all the time, but I also know I don't focus on all the 4 food groups every day either. So here's to a new change in that. I also want to implement the "Crack the Fat Loss Code" method again. I now know how important it was for me to function and feel better.

I am copying a segment from a blogger whom is an inspiration to me and many others. His name is Sean. I think I used some of his quotes in past blogs as well. If anyone wants to visit his blog, you can do it here.

Anyway, this particular paragraph really spoke to me.
Remember, I'm still a food addict, always will be. I'm recovered, but aware. How does it work? If you want this to be the very last time you ever need to lose weight---If you want to make this THE TIME when you really do it, for real...You must realize the vital element of dropping the excuses and rationalizations that make us feel better about bad choices. You must remind yourself how important this entire journey is---you must embrace 100% self honesty and self responsibility in your choices and circumstances. When you do that---you realize, it's not someone's fault if they brought something yummy or the restaurant's fault or the holiday's fault...or anything or anyone else. It's us and our choices. We have the comfort in knowing that we can still have anything we want---there's no deprivation, but we also know that we have a Calorie Bank and Trust account that must remain intact--the integrity of that calorie budget is and must be maintained, because when we start making rationalizations to "break it," or "have just a little more, or just this time," those thoughts and actions are the beginning of the end. And the end, well--that's a very sad place. "Oh well, we'll start again some other time," right? NO--this is the time, now--today---we must embrace consistency---that's how I lost 212 pounds the first 365 days---It was consistency....maintain it, take pride in it, defend it from your emotions and circumstances at every turn, and get ready---because amazing results are coming your way. And those incredible goodies...make sure you eat some every now and then...because that's what normal people with normal, healthy relationships with food, do.

Another good example of going face to face with reality is what my goals in life are. A guy who I am communicating with on E-harmony asked this question, "Going forward from today, what are 3 main goals you would like to achieve in your life?” WOW! That was a really good question and seriously, it made me think. I sat there and pondered on this for many minutes. What are my goals? What and how would I like to accomplish them? This question is an amazing thing because it made me come to terms with the fact that yes, I want way more in life than I give myself credit for. I am not some person who should be sitting around, moping that I don't have a life like this person or that person--trying to live a life of comparison. No! My life is different. I have a calling. I have aspirations that are ACHIEVABLE!!! I do not have to think that all I am good for is a sit down job, just working to pay off bills. UGH! How DEPRESSING! No, I am better than that. I have passions, wants and interests. I want to shoot for my goals. Make some tangible changes in my life and start "doing". HA HA! This is so liberating!!!!

So, facing reality isn't a bad thing, it's a really good thing. Understanding who you are and how your life's journey is affecting you is important. Everyone has the good and bad from choices they made-no one is perfect. It's all about how are we dealing with them today. How are we stepping forward with purpose? Are we making a difference or would we like to make a difference? Come join me on the “Reality Journey” and let's move forward from today.

1 comment:

  1. Your cousins blog at King Maker is gone. Is she ok?